maneno ya binti mmoja aliyekuwa amehalalisha masuala ya ushiriki wake wa ngono biashara aliwahi kusema haya!!
A female teacher in the mixed boarding school that I attended used to
compare us girls to a tin of cocoa; you remember the one which had a
foil inside. 'The first time you let a man touch your breasts or private
parts, then you have opened the lid. The moment you lose your
virginity, the foil is gone. After that, every time you have sex, the
cocoa gets depleted. If you are not careful the rightful owner will find
there is nothing left for him'. At the face of it, it was a polite way
to dissuade us from adolescence sex, but a little deeper it implied we
girls didn't really belong to ourselves but to some man somewhere, who
was supposed to have all the cocoa. Our role in society it seemed was to
prepare for this man.'