Why Initial Dating is hard for Women Too Mar 21, 2011 Jamie Ott Woman is approached by a man. - Photostock In dating, some believe women have it easier because they are not expected to approach a man. However, waiting for a man to approach is much more antagonizing than some realize. One never knows who is going to approach, and sometimes men approach women at the wrong time. Here are several reasons why being approached by men is frustrating. Waiting to Be ApproachedWaiting to be approached can take days, weeks, months, and even years.If a woman is not noticeable to men, then they will not approach and this could mean a long time of single life. A woman has to figure the right amount of flirting and meticulous grooming to attract a male, and not send off too sexual, or desperate, a vibe; this can be just as difficult as trying to ask a woman out. Men have said to me that women can get a man any time they want, but it's getting a man that respects women that is a challenge, and getting a man who is not just after one thing. Quality of the ApproachUnfortunately, the quality of the approach is not always goods. Sometimes awoman can be bombarded by males who deliver obvious pick up lines. By obvious, it is meant that it's clear, in the way a man approaches, that the lines he delivers may have been used at least a hundred times before. Other times, a man may not match a woman's preference and, sometimes, it's just a bad time to be approached, like on a day for running errands. Competition to be NoticedIf a woman is not the most attractive or eye catching in the room, thenshe may never be approached. Not only can this lead to unhealthy female competition, but, once again, she must figure the right amount of grooming and flirting without being perceived as aggressive or desperate. Sometimes stakes in a competition can be upped by dressing more sexy, but dressing more sexy can be misunderstood for promiscuity and, consequently, attract the wrong kind of man. Additional CommentsThere are men who like to be approached by women, and there are justas many who prefer to do the approaching. When reading this article, some may think "why not just talk to a guy?" Women do talk to men, but despite modern times, some have confessed to me that women who show too much interest seem to be of low character. To make it worse, those who confessed this didn't understand why they felt this way. In the end, when it comes to dating, women are still waiting while men continue to plow the fields. If something is not desirable, they move along, and if someone rejects them, then they move along. Perhaps being approached is easier, but the benefits in having choices and being able to act on them outweighs the disadvantages of having to play the submissive role of waiting to be asked out by a man. |